You’re probably familiar with this situation: a disagreement arises, but the other person systematically refuses to take responsibility. No self-reflection, never an apology, even when the mistake is obvious. This refusal to acknowledge their errors creates constant tension and can unintentionally leave you in the role of “the one who’s exaggerating.” However, a peaceful relationship is based on listening and balance, not on constant justification.
Similarly, some people never consider other people’s time: postponed meetings, forgotten appointments, chronic lateness… In small doses, this happens to everyone. But when it becomes a way of operating, it’s as if your own organization no longer matters.
Attention: a need… or a silent addiction?
Some people have a near-constant need for validation. One compliment after another, and nothing seems to satisfy them. This quest for approval may seem harmless, but it becomes exhausting when it pervades the relationship. You then find yourself playing the role of emotional support without having chosen to do so.
This lack of confidence can also lead to a permanent reserve. It’s difficult to know what the person truly thinks or feels. They keep a part of themselves “behind the curtain,” which creates a disconcerting distance. This complicates relationships, because trust is built on transparency, however imperfect.
When the promise loses its meaning
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