Ultimately, the question of where ashes belong is not answered by fear, pressure, or rigid rules.
It is answered by love — by what brings peace to the heart, by what honors the life that was lived, and by what helps the living move forward without losing the bond they carry inside.
Whether the ashes remain at home, return to the earth, or rest in a sacred place, it is the intention — the tenderness, the respect, the remembrance — that gives the choice its meaning.
